Decisions that changed my life personally
My life has never been easy. But, I would not blame my destiny for this. Life is tough when you think that you don’t have a way out of your problems. It requires maturity to understand the problem, its causes and its solution. There is always a way out of problems. So, the day I decided to change my attitude towards the problem, my problems were solved and now there is nothing that could upset me for more than 24 hours.
So here are 3 decisions that changed my life.
1. Stopped expecting
The day I decided to stop expecting and do my work alone, I achieved a lot of things in my life. Those achievements helped me become a wiser person today. And, it has solved a lot of problems of my life. Now, the way I look at my problems is different. Now, I don’t wait for any miracle to happen or my situation to change, Instead, I work on it myself and change it. God does miracles only when you want it to happen. But, you’ll have to get up and work on your problems.
Earlier, I used to think that God will do some miracle and my situation will change, but I kept on waiting and it never happened. But, the day I got up and took some actions, the miracle did happen. Because, God helps those who help themselves.
My biggest fear was getting hurt. I get hurt easily and when I used to get hurt, I used to expect people to come and console me. But, I never got satisfaction from people.
Then, one fine day, I decided to write down my problems in a diary and spoke out to God alone. That was the day when I felt stronger than ever. When God has given all the senses to you, use it wisely. Don’t let people hurt you. People who don’t care about you have got no rights to hurt you. So, you should stop caring and learn to move on in life.
Trust me, I have overcome my fear by just implementing a simple change in my life. It is your life and you have control over it. So, just stop expecting and take a step forward and get your work done by yourself.
So, all I want to say is that just don’t expect anything. Do your work and things will change.
2. Stopped repeating the same mistakes.
We tend to repeat the same mistake over and over again and it’s a natural human behavior. Of course, mistakes are our biggest teacher, but, if the mistake is repeated it becomes a choice. So, until you change your behavior, you do not learn from your mistakes.
I myself have repeated the same mistakes for years together. But, nothing changed until I changed my behavior.I was getting depressed because of the same repeated mistakes I was making and I badly wanted to do something about it. I used to feel low all the time, worthless and useless about myself.
Then, I realized the mistake I was making every time. The mistake was, reacting in the same manner on the same problem. I thought, why am I taking these when I could throw it back and keep the peace. From that point on, I changed my behavior and for the first time I reacted differently. I was surprised by the result. It was unbelievable.
Ever since that day, I started reacting to life differently. It changed my life and I became happier than ever.
3. Became the observer of life
I was a very talkative girl, I used to talk to everyone. I used to get this comment from people almost every day. I was too quick to pass the judgment, without thinking anything, I used to say whatever I used to feel. I used to take time to understand the situation. I used to speak, then feel bad about it and later I wished I had done things differently. But, I never minded, neither cared about it, only until I got a comment from someone saying: “ Talkative people are not always wise”.
That was the day when I really sat down and reflected on myself. I realized a lot of things. In the processes of self realization I learned a lot about myself, about life and about people. Ever since then, I became the observer. I never opened up in public unless I was asked to speak.
Over the course of time, I observed that people are judging me again. Then, I realized that, No matter what you do, people will judge you anyway.
Then, there came a time when enough was enough and, I stopped giving a damn what people think about me.
All I want to say is, when I became an observer, I learned a lot about people, their problems, and the situations. I learned to deal with the pains and suffering in a better way. I became stronger mentally, sensitive to others’ feelings and emotions.
Now, I don’t feel the need of being acknowledged by others. I enjoy solitude. But, it doesn’t mean that I don’t enjoy the company of others, I equally do. If I get hurt, I move on quickly. I’m able to change my situation. I take my own advice in decision making.
In the end, I would like to say three things:
1.You are your own adviser.
2. Follow your conscience and,
3. Achieve emotional maturity.